By Carolyn Devries, founder of New Way Lawyers

The cost-of-living crisis is causing financial stress for many Australians and this in turn is resulting in tension in relationships.  More than four million Aussies are currently experiencing conflict. In some cases, couples who have separated or begun divorce proceedings cannot move out of their home because they are unable to cover the cost of rent or mortgages, household bills and lifestyle costs on a single income. This means there are people living under the same roof with an ex – which is never an easy thing. There are some tips to get through it though.

Lay down some rules

If you’re going to continue living with an ex, there needs to be some ground rules in place. If you find it difficult to be around one another, create a roster of who can access certain communal spaces at certain times. This should ideally be split evenly. If you have kids, there also needs to be time when one parent can spend alone time with them without the other present. There should also be rules about visitors and whether or not they are permitted in the home, or if dates should occur at other places.

Don’t plan on forever

Even if you get along, it’s generally not a good idea to live with an ex indefinitely. It can eventually lead to emotional strain, confuse children, and perhaps prevent you from moving on with your life. It can be helpful to set a timeline for finding alternative accommodation or putting the house up for sale.

Split the chores

Don’t create unnecessary conflict over household tasks. If you are both living under the same roof, you should split the responsibilities. Delegate tasks to each of you, as you would with a roommate. Discuss what you’d like to be in charge of and work out a system from there.

Be open about finances

If you are struggling to pay your expenses, it’s important to seek help from professionals. Be open with your ex and get clear on what bills each of you are responsible for, or if they are to be split down the middle. You can call the National Debt Helpline on 1800 007 007 Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 4.30pm, for assistance if you have joint debts.

What if there is family or domestic violence?

If there is family or domestic violence occurring in the home, you should not continue living together. It can be difficult to leave this type of situation, but you can find help. Contact Human Services for assistance with rent or accommodation.. If you are not an Australian resident, the Red Cross may be able to help you with financial assistance.

If your situation is an emergency, or you or someone you know of is in danger, call 000 and report it to the police. Call 1800 RESPECT to speak to counsellors about your situation and they can help you come up with a plan and arrange temporary accommodation.

Getting Legal Advice

You can also contact New Way Lawyers, who provide free legal help every lunchtime via their Facebook group ‘Lunch with a Lawyer’. Alternatively, you can contact them for free 20-minute consultation by phoning (07) 3548 5890.

About New Way Lawyers 

New Way Lawyers is Australia’s first non-profit law firm. 14 years ago, New Way Lawyers was established with a non-profit structure to offer Australian’s an alternative approach to family law, whereas most family law firms structure their business model around generating profit. Founded by Carolyn Devries, New Way Lawyers provide full family law advice and representation based on the principles of excellence, care, accessibility and innovation.